Tuesday, 26 May 2015

IS HAPPINESS REALLY THE KEY TOWARDS ULTIMATE SUCCESS?

Contrary to popular belief, being abundantly happy can cause suffering as well as sheer satisfaction. These days, people are being pressured into pursuing happiness to achieve ultimate success, which shouldn't be the case as one does not need a temporary mood to determine their levels of motivation to achieve their goals in life. Enthusiasm and ambition is what should drive someone towards their aims in life.

If one were to go around and ask others what happiness was, they would receive a number of divergent responses. Happiness is subjective to what a person's experiences are and what they have been through in life, rather than objective as one may argue.

"Happiness depends upon ourselves" is a famous quote by Aristotle, which is self explanatory in it's meaning, however, it states that what you find happiness in is solely down to yourself. Different people have different perceptions of happiness, this is due to the mere fact that happiness doesn't have a definition, it isn't measurable. Giving happiness a definition would limit it's true meaning, it would put a restriction to people's perceptions on the subject.

There is a consensus on what happiness is, however, what people lack to understand is that happiness isn't what it is deemed to be. In reality, it is an illusion that lures you into the false perceptions of life. Happiness is not measured by material worth or status symbol, as some may believe. It can, however, cause a person to become gullible, selfish and in some cases unsuccessful in life. On the contrary, people who have the tendency to show more anger, resentment or sadness are those who are critical in analysing, those who seem to be more attentive to the minor details in life, who are particularly meticulous to society and are, in fact, more motivated to reach their goals.

Research by Ed Diener, psychologist, also known as "Mr Happiness" for his research in the field of subjective well-being, endorses this whole idea as he stated “Once a moderate level of happiness is achieved, further increases can sometimes be detrimental.” His research to support this was written by him in the 'Journal Perspectives on Psychological Science' which stated that “On a scale from 1 to 10, where 10 is extremely happy, 8’s were more successful than 9’s and 10’s, getting more education and earning more.” This in itself speaks volumes and again, validates my point.

I would like to finish off by saying that one should not aim for total sadness in order to achieve success, instead they should consider balancing their moods which may motivate them into achieving something in life, rather than striving for complete and utter happiness, which may give the mind the impression that they are perfect as they are and don’t need to endeavour any further. One should always move forward, no matter what. On that note, I'd like to leave you with this quote, “If you can’t fly, then run. If you can’t run, then walk. If you can’t walk, then crawl, but whatever you do, you have to keep moving forward” – Martin Luther King Jr.

Thursday, 14 May 2015

BROWN AND LOVELY

So, for the first time in the history of my life, I have actually been paying attention to all the TV shows my family have been watching on GEO and ARY and I couldn't help but notice how much diversity the industry was lacking in terms of the appearance of famous female figures.

Probably 99% of successful women in Pakistani media that you can think of have one thing in common. The amount of melanin they have. Or, sickening as it may sound, how well they manage to cover it up with the aid of skin lightening creams or skin bleach. 

It's sad when you think about it. Pakistan is a country of colour, yet the message being given out is that the lighter you are, the more prettier you are and chances are, the more respected and successful you will be. 

This is solely down to us. We're to blame. Oddly enough, being "brown" is looked down on in Pakistani culture. Ironic, isn't it? Nearly every Pakistani person I have come across (I said nearly every) has at least once in their lives mocked someone for the colour of their skin. If you're Pakistani, I'm certain that you know where I'm coming from.

Men only finding women attractive if they're light skinned, women mocking women if they aren't light skinned. Seriously? Get over this obsession and for once, just accept who you are. Drop all these whitening creams and bleaches. The endless endeavour to lose your heritage won't get you anywhere in life. If you want respect off others, you need to learn to respect yourself first and accept yourself for whom you truly are.

Don't strive to change yourself to please others as you may lose your true, unique self in the process.

Thursday, 7 May 2015

Materialism

Materialism seems to be growing as we're moving on throughout the years. Who's to blame? The media for presenting celebrities A-list lifestyles to us, luring us into the false perceptions of happiness? Or social media, where ordinary people, much like yourself and I, post images of our flashy luxuries on platforms such as Instagram, Twitter, Facebook? 

The truth is, we're all to blame. We go about sharing images of branded clothes, watches, makeup, phones and cars, in that order, to manifest status symbol which shouldn't be the case as material worth is nugatory. Don't get me wrong, there's absolutely nothing wrong with treating yourself or posting your pricy possessions online, however, there's a fine line between pampering yourself and being appreciative and bragging about your luxuries to others.

My point is, not everyone is as fortunate as you are, so by showing off, not only are you presenting yourself as a narcissistic, selfish and egotistical savage , you are also making others feel resentful. So, either way, you lose. Trust me when I say that you'll be doing yourself a favour by cutting out this egocentric habit of yours. If this doesn't apply to you... then erm soz m8.

Sunday, 26 April 2015

Intentions

Self loathe. Self pity. Is it worth it? I ask.
"I didn't mean it" "Those weren't my intentions" I cried as every noun, verb, pronoun and adjective astray into a whirlpool of darkness and distress.

Anger. Hatred. Resentment. Is it worth it? I ask for the second time.
"It won't happen" "Forgive me" I pleaded as I vowed to never say a word of goodwill to anyone again.

Frustrating, it truly is, when one's acts of compassion come across to many as provocative acts of narcissism. Detestation, even, when to all intents and purposes, one meant quite the opposite. One meant all but harm. Benevolence, even.

Monday, 13 April 2015

//

the misguiding words
indented the depths of the soul
fragmented the mind
into pieces from a whole

Friday, 10 April 2015

10 things to remember in life.

These are a few things that I like to remember in life so I thought sharing them would be a great idea so that not only others can benefit, but I can look back and give myself a little reminder too.


1) Don't be a people pleaser.
Seriously. Don't. You were not born to please people. Don't change yourself to fit in, because there'll always be opinionated people out there. So, just be yourself and be too glam to give a damn. You'll stand out as an individual.

2) It's okay to say no, set your boundaries.
It's fine. Say no. Never let anybody push you around. If you do not want to do something, then say so. Speak up and don't ever be scared because nothing matters more than what you personally want. Set your boundaries and show people what isn't acceptable for you.

3) Do what you want to do. 
Now, this doesn't mean go all #YOLO and do things against your morals, of course not. What this means is that if you have something to say, say it. If you have something to do, do it. Pursue your dreams. Show the world what you're made of. Let your personality manifest positivity.

4) Life's too short.
Don't hold grudges against people, life's too short for that. Forgive people but don't forget what they did. Talk to people, but keep them in their limits and don't allow them to make the same mistake again. There's much more joy in doing that rather than completely ignoring someone and having to remember that you're ignoring them too. Remember that resentment is unhealthy.

5) Positive Vibes Only.
Stay away from negativity and ensure that all negativity is cut out of your life. If the negativity happens to be within your family, try talking it out nicely. If it's outside your home, cut it out. Seriously, life is already complicated as it is, don't stress. Chill.

6) Composure.
"Breath slow, count from one to ten with your eyes closed." - Alesha Dixon.
This quote literally gets me through all angry moments. Remember, composure is key. Anger never gets you anywhere because 9 out of 10 times, you'll regret half the things you said and because words can never be brought back, you'll be spending a hell of a lot of time trying to get things back to normal. So remember this quote. If you're ever angry, walk away. Even if you're right because you know you're right so that's all that should matter. What's the point in proving things to others? You can always go and sort matters out once the situation has settled.

7) Don't expect things.
Keeping your expectations high will only lead to disappointment.

8) Dream big.
No dream is ever too big. Always aim for the highest and the best. Prove people wrong, show them what you are capable of doing.

9) Be nice.

It's not hard. Be nice to others, compliment them and make them feel good about themselves. Trust me when I tell you that your words CAN make someone's day. Be compassionate towards others and they'll be the same towards you. You never know what's going on in other people's lives, so be nice. Your words could really brighten someone's mood.

10) Be confident.
Be confident with who you are and what you are capable of. Never degrade or underestimate yourself. Now, that doesn't mean you cross the line and fall into the depths of narcissism and arrogance and put others down, no. By confident, I am talking about being comfortable with yourself and being accepting of your flaws. Everyone has flaws, not having a flaw would be a flaw within itself. So, be happy with who you are.

Thursday, 12 March 2015

Why

Why is it that although you give someone your 100%, they in return give you 10%? Why is it that it's acceptable when someone is rude to you, but once you retalliate to give them a taste of their own medicine, all hell breaks loose and infact, all is blamed on you? Why is it that life is so unfair in this way? How others get favoured just because they're... them and you're... you.

Thursday, 12 February 2015

The world we live in

I'm sad. Sick and tired of this disgusting world we live in. The world we call home. Is this our home? Should we be proud of it? Should we be proud of a place where hatred exists till this day? A place where racism is said to have been abolished but is still apparent in many forms? A place where those who have no self respect are being idolised? A place where the poor are getting poorer and the rich are getting even richer? The answer is no. It's 2015 yet hatred and resentment amongst people seems to be growing substantially. We seem to be becoming more modern in terms of technology and new discoveries, yet our mindsets are further declining. What is the point of it all if we have little, to no, humanity?

It's time we all decided to move on. It's high time we put a stop to stereotypes, cut the cliché and got over ancient views. Only the humanity within us can determine how benevolent we truly are. We're all the same. Nobody is evil. Misguided, perhaps, but not evil.

Tuesday, 10 February 2015

NOTE

HELLO
I'M STRESSED OUT ABOUT LIFE
SO I THOUGHT I'D WRITE THIS SHORT POST

AND ANYONE WHO'S READING THIS
MY ADVICE TO YOU FOR LIFE IS
ALWAYS DO YOUR SCHOOLWORK
ALWAYS REVISE
ALWAYS STAY ON TOP OF YOUR WORK
NEVER LEAVE ANYTHING TILL LAST MINUTE

OH AND ALSO ENSURE THAT YOU SLEEP WELL 

THAT IS ALL

GOODBYE

Monday, 19 January 2015

Give a little, Gain a lot.

Give a little, Gain a lot.
That is how I wish it were.
Put no effort, no time, no shot.
But still, give a little and gain a lot.

No motivation, whatsoever.
How your mind teases you. Clever.
You yearn to reach a certain destination,
But something stops you, perhaps a manmade creation.

Your thoughts unravel as time goes by
Telling you this and that. Why, oh why.
But before you realise, you've lost control,
Maybe it was fate, perhaps nothing at all

Sunday, 18 January 2015

Nostalgia

Nostalgia,
An evil component of our minds.
Tells us that the past is somewhat better,
Than what we encounter today, you may find.

That isn't the case, however, 
Don't doubt the power of the mind, never.
It'll tell you all sorts,
Piling up unwanted thoughts.

So don't be mistaken, 
For it isn't what it means.
Don't be lured into that false trap,
Nostalgia isn't what it seems.