Tuesday, 26 May 2015

IS HAPPINESS REALLY THE KEY TOWARDS ULTIMATE SUCCESS?

Contrary to popular belief, being abundantly happy can cause suffering as well as sheer satisfaction. These days, people are being pressured into pursuing happiness to achieve ultimate success, which shouldn't be the case as one does not need a temporary mood to determine their levels of motivation to achieve their goals in life. Enthusiasm and ambition is what should drive someone towards their aims in life.

If one were to go around and ask others what happiness was, they would receive a number of divergent responses. Happiness is subjective to what a person's experiences are and what they have been through in life, rather than objective as one may argue.

"Happiness depends upon ourselves" is a famous quote by Aristotle, which is self explanatory in it's meaning, however, it states that what you find happiness in is solely down to yourself. Different people have different perceptions of happiness, this is due to the mere fact that happiness doesn't have a definition, it isn't measurable. Giving happiness a definition would limit it's true meaning, it would put a restriction to people's perceptions on the subject.

There is a consensus on what happiness is, however, what people lack to understand is that happiness isn't what it is deemed to be. In reality, it is an illusion that lures you into the false perceptions of life. Happiness is not measured by material worth or status symbol, as some may believe. It can, however, cause a person to become gullible, selfish and in some cases unsuccessful in life. On the contrary, people who have the tendency to show more anger, resentment or sadness are those who are critical in analysing, those who seem to be more attentive to the minor details in life, who are particularly meticulous to society and are, in fact, more motivated to reach their goals.

Research by Ed Diener, psychologist, also known as "Mr Happiness" for his research in the field of subjective well-being, endorses this whole idea as he stated “Once a moderate level of happiness is achieved, further increases can sometimes be detrimental.” His research to support this was written by him in the 'Journal Perspectives on Psychological Science' which stated that “On a scale from 1 to 10, where 10 is extremely happy, 8’s were more successful than 9’s and 10’s, getting more education and earning more.” This in itself speaks volumes and again, validates my point.

I would like to finish off by saying that one should not aim for total sadness in order to achieve success, instead they should consider balancing their moods which may motivate them into achieving something in life, rather than striving for complete and utter happiness, which may give the mind the impression that they are perfect as they are and don’t need to endeavour any further. One should always move forward, no matter what. On that note, I'd like to leave you with this quote, “If you can’t fly, then run. If you can’t run, then walk. If you can’t walk, then crawl, but whatever you do, you have to keep moving forward” – Martin Luther King Jr.

Thursday, 14 May 2015

BROWN AND LOVELY

So, for the first time in the history of my life, I have actually been paying attention to all the TV shows my family have been watching on GEO and ARY and I couldn't help but notice how much diversity the industry was lacking in terms of the appearance of famous female figures.

Probably 99% of successful women in Pakistani media that you can think of have one thing in common. The amount of melanin they have. Or, sickening as it may sound, how well they manage to cover it up with the aid of skin lightening creams or skin bleach. 

It's sad when you think about it. Pakistan is a country of colour, yet the message being given out is that the lighter you are, the more prettier you are and chances are, the more respected and successful you will be. 

This is solely down to us. We're to blame. Oddly enough, being "brown" is looked down on in Pakistani culture. Ironic, isn't it? Nearly every Pakistani person I have come across (I said nearly every) has at least once in their lives mocked someone for the colour of their skin. If you're Pakistani, I'm certain that you know where I'm coming from.

Men only finding women attractive if they're light skinned, women mocking women if they aren't light skinned. Seriously? Get over this obsession and for once, just accept who you are. Drop all these whitening creams and bleaches. The endless endeavour to lose your heritage won't get you anywhere in life. If you want respect off others, you need to learn to respect yourself first and accept yourself for whom you truly are.

Don't strive to change yourself to please others as you may lose your true, unique self in the process.

Thursday, 7 May 2015

Materialism

Materialism seems to be growing as we're moving on throughout the years. Who's to blame? The media for presenting celebrities A-list lifestyles to us, luring us into the false perceptions of happiness? Or social media, where ordinary people, much like yourself and I, post images of our flashy luxuries on platforms such as Instagram, Twitter, Facebook? 

The truth is, we're all to blame. We go about sharing images of branded clothes, watches, makeup, phones and cars, in that order, to manifest status symbol which shouldn't be the case as material worth is nugatory. Don't get me wrong, there's absolutely nothing wrong with treating yourself or posting your pricy possessions online, however, there's a fine line between pampering yourself and being appreciative and bragging about your luxuries to others.

My point is, not everyone is as fortunate as you are, so by showing off, not only are you presenting yourself as a narcissistic, selfish and egotistical savage , you are also making others feel resentful. So, either way, you lose. Trust me when I say that you'll be doing yourself a favour by cutting out this egocentric habit of yours. If this doesn't apply to you... then erm soz m8.